Matrimonial Law, Divorce, Custody, Same-Sex Marriage
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Allen  A. Drexel

Primary Practice Areas

Matrimonial and Family Law


Stanford Law School,
Stanford, California
J.D. 2000

University of Sussex, 
Brighton, England
M.A. 1992

Dartmouth College,
Hanover, New Hampshire
A.B. 1991
  • magna cum laude
  • Phi Beta Kappa


New York State
U.S. District Court, Southern District of New York
U.S. District Court, Northern District of Texas

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Allen A. Drexel
Tel: 212-935-3131, Ext. 335
Fax: 212-935-4514
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Allen A. Drexel concentrates his practice on complex family law issues, including divorce, equitable distribution of business and financial assets, spousal and child support, contested child custody cases, paternity proceedings, prenuptial and postnuptial agreements, and same-sex family law matters. 

Whether negotiating agreements, mediating disputes, or, when necessary, advocating in the trial and appellate courts, Mr. Drexel strives to achieve practical, creative, and cost-effective solutions to the challenging and often emotionally-charged issues facing our clients. He has written and lectured extensively on these topics and has been cited in The New York Times, the New York Law JournalNew York MagazineThe Daily BeastAbove the Law, and other publications regarding family law issues.

Despite the Supreme Court’s recent landmark decision extending federal recognition to same-sex marriage, same-sex couples, even if lawfully married, still do not enjoy throughout the U.S. the broad array of legal rights and protections afforded heterosexual couples; issues concerning income and estate taxes, medical decision-making authority, property division, child custody, spousal and child support, and other matters generally remain more challenging for them than for opposite-sex couples. Mr. Drexel is committed to helping same-sex couples reach creative and practical solutions which protect them and their children despite the legal gaps that persist.


  • New York State Bar Association, Family Law Section, 2006-present (Executive Committee, 2012-present; Co-Chair, Membership Committee, 2018-present; Co-Chair, LGBT Rights Committee, 2012-2018; Legislation Committee, 2008-present)
  • New York City Bar Association, 2001-present (Matrimonial Law Committee, 2017-present, 2010-2013; Co-Chair, LGBT Rights Committee, 2005-2008)
  • American Bar Association (Member, Family Law Section, 2005-present)
  • Cave Canem Foundation, a non-profit organization supporting Black poets and Black poetry, Secretary on the Board of Directors


  • Report: 1,324 Reasons for Marriage Equality in New York State, project co-coordinator and lead drafter, with Ross Levi, Esq., for New York City Bar Association and Empire State Pride Agenda, June 8, 2007.
  • Children’s Best Interests: Divorce Law, Same-Sex Marriage Debate, N.Y.L.J., Mar. 23, 2006 (with Robert Stephan Cohen).
  • Before Paris Burned: Race, Class, and Male Homosexuality on the Chicago South Side, 1935–1960, in CREATING A PLACE FOR OURSELVES: LESBIAN, GAY & BISEXUAL COMMUNITY HISTORIES 119 (Brett Beemyn ed., Routledge 1997).


  • Life After Windsor: Where Are We Now?, Presentation to New York County Lawyers’ Association, Matrimonial Law Section (September 10, 2013).
  • Marriage Equality – The Paper Anniversary: Updates on Case Law & Developments, CLE Presentation, New York City Bar Association (June 25, 2012).
  • Advancing Equality Through Financial & Legal Planning, Panel Discussion, hosted by Bernstein Global Wealth Management (May 2, 2012)
  • Marriage Equality in New YorkThe New Legal Landscape for Same-Sex Couples, CLE Presentation, New York City Bar Association (November 9, 2011).
  • What Passage of the Marriage Equality Law Will Mean for Same-Sex Couples in New York: A Multidisciplinary Forum, CLE Presentation, New York City Bar Association (October 4, 2011).
  • Same-Sex Marriage in New York – What Every Practitioner Needs to Know, CLE Presentation, New York State Bar Association (September 9, 2011).
  • Presentation regarding (i) impact on same-sex spouses of federal Defense of Marriage Act and inconsistent recognition of same-sex marriages outside New York state, and (ii) related planning issues, New York City Bar Association, Matrimonial Law Committee (September 8, 2011).
  • Planning for Same-Sex & Unmarried Couples: Probate, Property & Family Law, CLE Presentation, New York City Bar Association (April 28, 2009).
  • Beyond Ozzie & Harriet: Representing Non-Traditional Couples in the Paterson Era, CLE Presentation, New York Law School (November 21, 2008).
  • Culturally Competent Lawyering for At-Risk LGBTQ Youth: Advocating Effectively in Foster Care & Juvenile Detention Systems; Chair, CLE Program, New York City Bar Association (May 15, 2008).
  • Love Among the DOMAs: Conflict of Law Issues Affecting New York LGBT Families & Domestic Partners; CLE Presentation, New York City Bar Association (May 22, 2007).



  • New York Metro Super Lawyers 2013 until present
  • Arthur S. Leonard Prize 2016, New York City Bar Association career award for “tireless efforts on behalf of the LGBT community.”
  • Selected for inaugural issue of National Law Journal’s “Trailblazers in Divorce, Trusts & Estates,” National Law Journal2016
  • New York State Bar Association, Empire State Honoree for pro bono service, 2007, 2009